Fuck Yeah FTMs!: This is probably stupid to be asking.
My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 2.5 years and I trust her with everything. She treats me like a bio guy and never makes me feel uncomfortable sexually. I happened to be itching down there (yeah, tmi.) and she commented saying “are you wet?” and it made me really upset. I keep…
This made me think of one time when my wife and I were moving to Boston where gay marriage is legal and she made a comment about us being able to be “legally married.” I don’t think I’ve ever been so mad in my entire life. I felt the same way you did about how she must see me as a female because why else would she make a comment like that. She swears to this day that she didn’t mean it in a way that was meant to hurt my feelings or make me feel like less than a man. It’s taken me a long time to realize she was telling the truth.
I bring all this up because being trans is hard dude, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Emotionally it’s exhausting and I get that, obviously I’ve been there. But look… genitals don’t mean shit, I’ve come to learn that my wife does really see me as a man no question, but we can’t deny that there are parts to us that make us different. This doesn’t make us not men though! If a guy lost his junk in a freak accident he wouldn’t suddenly not be a man right? of course not. so don’t think of your genitals as “female” because if they are attached to you then they are male, simply because you are man. Sometimes bodies get fucked up during assembly, but that doesn’t change our mind or what’s in our hearts and that’s what really counts any.
Listen, you’ve found someone who loves you and accepts you. That’s worth it’s weight in gold because some of us aren’t so lucky. Your girlfriend doesn’t see you as “female” she sees you for who you are and all your body parts that come with it. It’s a complicated thing, but trust me when I say it our own self consciousness that gets in the way of these things. We try so hard to not appear female that when a slightest remark is made we hit the roof.
Anyway, I don’t think she meant to hurt you and I do believe she see’s you as a man… That’s just my two cents if a strangers opinion means anything at all.
